You might be surprised by the title of this post, being that I am giving you just my one best mom tip and not a list of 100 tips to help you as a mom. I use to have a lot to say about being a mom and would love to offer up lots of advice about being a mom, until I learned that most mom’s learn quick about how to be the best mom that they can be. This one great tip I have for you though is worth keeping my lips zipped about all the rest and just giving you this one awesome tip!
You may find other tips on Mom Collaborative, but this one tip is the one I would share if I could only share one!
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Really this tip isn’t just for the moms it’s also just as helpful for dads as well! So if you are reading this be sure to share this with your spouse as well as with anyone else who cares for your child on the regular! I promise it’s helpful and easy!
Also please note, I am a mom not a Doctor or child expert of any kind. Just a mom. Ha! Ha!
Let’s get to it already!!
There are times as I go along in parenting and feel as though I have really finally figured my kids out and what works for them and what doesn’t.
Just when I think I have it all together everything changes and I feel unprepared and struggle to connect with and understand my kids.
What I finally figured out at about age 3 with my oldest child was that I didn’t know what was coming. What I mean is, I wasn’t prepared for the next change or transition my child was coming upon next. As obvious as it is that kids change with each new age, it can often times catch a parent by surprise when they don’t know what is coming with each new age.
You know how you read those “What to Expect When You are Expecting” books while waiting for your first child to arrive? Or perhaps you adopted like me and you read lots of books on what to expect about that. Those come in handy for all the things you might not be aware of that will come up with your new baby or child in the beginning. Suddenly time passes, life happens and maybe you come across a parenting book or 2 but seldom have a chance to read. Then one day your child just turned 8 and suddenly has more energy than you ever knew a person could have? That’s where my tip comes in.
Life is too short to be continually frustrated as a parent!
Every few months or every year just when I start to feel that my child is changing I look up what behaviors and developmental changes are likely to occur with their age. It takes just a few minutes and changes how I interact with my child! I usually search, “what to expect for an # year old boy/girl”. For example I would search (What to expect for an eight year old boy). Here is an example of what I might find. I normally read from a variety of sources just to gain a better understanding of their age. I find it very helpful to know what types of abilities they may be gaining at a specific age, how they might feel, and how they may interact socially.
There have been years where I have failed to remember to do this one thing, and looking back I think about how much easier things could have been if I’d remembered.
Once I have read about where my child may be at in their development, I find I gain an understanding and patience for my child that is very much needed during their transition. Once I have the knowledge of their new behaviors it reminds me that my kids are just kids and they are probably doing the best they can with where they are at in their life. I promise it will help you to see your child differently, and to respond to them from a much better view point. I find myself even thinking they are slightly cuter as I sit back and watch them make their transition in to their new age.
In order for someone to really understand how helpful this is, they would need to give it a try for themselves. So spend a few minutes looking up what to expect for a child the same age as yours and see for yourself how it changes your understanding of them and what to expect or perhaps what to stop expecting from them.
It’s helpful to know when your kids may start loosing teeth, ask for more privacy, or start asking you a million questions.
Next time they make a change prepare yourself and use this tip!
I hope that this tip was as useful as you had hoped for. I know for me it has been a really fantastic way to be more in tune with my kids and way less frustrated with them as they change and grow.
It only takes a few minutes but it can really turn things around for you as a parent!